Our job as a mom is never done.
It can often leave us depleted at the end of the day.
I totally get it because I am there most of the time. It’s never easy to ask for help, but it is important that you do. Your mental health depends on it. Your overall feeling of well-being depends on it. Your family depends on it.
It doesn’t matter if you’re a single mom and you feel like you have no help, you need need help with the daily operations of life.
Finding good help can be a tough battle, but if you make this a priority for the sake of your family, you can finally breathe a sigh of relief.
Here is what you need to do first….
Admit that You Need Help
The first part of getting help as a mom is to admit that you need help. Sometimes you feel like you have to be supermom saving the day. Nope, you need to saved too. No one can go on 100 percent 24/7. Our bodies were designed to rest.
Being overwhelmed and tired is not super. You need someone to step in and do those things that leave you feeling drained.
Ask for Help
Many of your friends and family can see that you have need some sort of assistance. While you are trying to be strong, you should take advantage of the help whenever possible. Reach out to those around you to politely ask for help. I know it is humbling to ask for help, but doing this can free you.
Accept the Help
Once you have people in place that are wiling to help you, it is your duty to accept the help. They may not clean your kitchen or watch your children in the way that you might do it. But if you want to stay well for your family accept all the help you can get.
Risks of Not Getting Help
No one person can do it all without getting stressed and burned out. Whenever these things happen to me I shut down and do nothing.
I see it all the time in my circle. I see the moms who are trying to take care of children that have extreme special needs all alone. Their time spent with the child leaves them in the house all day, with no interaction with other adults. Their view of the world becomes skewed and they continue to go at it alone.
No one man is an island. Moms need more support than most people think.
Stress Related Illnesses
When you don’t reach out for help you run the risk of stress related illnesses. This is not researched. I know this by experience. Any time I have tried to be the hero of the family and do everything I always ended up with a cold or the flu.
This is due to all unnecessary pressure I was putting on myself. I’m not just a stay at home mom. I also:
- Write blogs.
- I homeschool.
- Cook and clean.
- Shop for groceries.
- Take care of the children when they are sick.
- Do the laundry.
- Take care of the little things that need to be fixed when my husband is away.
The list can go on.
Lack of sleep, constant overthinking, and attempts to be perfect would cause me to feel a little jittery. I don’t have anxiety disorder, however I was putting myself in the position to go down some sort of road where I would feel nervous. It’s a horrible feeling and I wouldn’t want anyone to feel this way especially trying to raise a family.
Let It Go
Here is what I have also learned in my journey as a stay at home mom: I can’t do all of the things. As much as we have been taught to do what you have to do, sometimes you have to nothing.
When I realized that I didn’t have to have a perfectly put together house because I was recovering from a c-section while trying to homeschool two other children I set myself free from emotional stress.
I had my mom in my corner telling me you can do it. You can manage, just pray. I could not. Then she understood that I was different than her. I couldn’t work through the pain and emotional struggles I felt after having a surgery.
Whatever situation you’re in let it go and get to your tasks later.
I wrote this post for the moms who are struggling to put all the pieces together perfectly. Trying to be perfect will only help you miss the most important piece to making everything work in your home. That important piece is you. So…for your mental and emotional health I urge you to make sure you get the help you need when you need it. Also, let whomever is helping you do their job.